Adoption Update: We’re in!
// June 24th, 2011 // family
I neglect this blog so much, I’m surprised it’s willing to let me post anything. But I guess it still loves me, forgives me and here I am updating everyone on our adoption adventure!
The first announcement and last posting on our plans to adopt came almost two months ago. If you missed it, you can read all about it by clicking here. I meant to keep everyone in the know on how things were going, but I’ve been traveling, working my real job and working my second job a lot, and we’ve been crazy busy. I have a feeling it will increase a bit here if things start happening, so stay tuned!
First off, the big news: We’re in!
That means, as of right now, today, we’re live in the all-important Match Book. We could get presented to an expectant mom at any time. In fact, odds are we may have already been! But I’ll get to that in a little bit.
To recap the last two months…it’s been a ton of work. Seven classes. Over five home study meetings. Personality tests. Lots of writing and question answering. Then designing our match letter. Took a few weeks just for that.
One of the best parts of this process has been the people we’ve met. From Rene, our case worker, to all the families in our classes. In fact, we’ve gotten to know a couple of them so well, we’re going out on a double-date tonight for dinner and a movie! It’s just awesome.
The Match Letter
We wanted to share our letter with you guys. To catch everyone up on this, the letter is what is presented to an expectant mom to help her choose a family for her unborn child(ren). This letter tell the story of our little family…the struggles we’ve had, how we met, all about Lyla and our friends/family. We designed and laid it out ourselves and are proud of how it looks and turned out!
So if you want to check it out, you can click right here to view it in PDF form.
Here is where things are getting interesting already. The agency we are using, Christian Family Care Agency, has had an all-time record number of placements this past year, so right now, there are only 14 families in their Match Book, which is very low. It’s not the best situation for them, but for us, it’s good.
In fact, our case worker and one of the other coordinators there actually were hoping we could get our letter done and printed right away. The way they were talking, we may have already been presented on Thursday. We don’t know this at all, but the way things were said, it was almost like they were waiting on us to get it finished.
We may not have talked previously about what kind of child we’re looking to adopt. Basically we are open to pretty much everything, but we would really like a girl. However, that puts us into the likelihood of the entire process taking a long time.
When they talked about the idea of being presented RIGHT AWAY, it was to a mother who doesn’t know what she’s having. Apparently this is pretty common because many of these moms don’t go to all the appointments and get ultrasounds, and when they are only a month or two away from having the child, it’s very hard to tell the sex.
So today we made the decision to let the Agency present us to this mother despite not knowing the sex.
We’re basically of the mindset right now…if somehow this mother and her child are the one for us, we’ll leave it in God’s hands to decide what we’ll be having.
Of course, none of this means anything right now! It’s not even been a day yet and we have no idea what’s going to happen!
In our previous blog post we mentioned that we’ll be doing some fund raising and having a tax-deductible account where people can donate money to help us with this adoption. The response was overwhelming and completely surprising. So many people, even those that I haven’t met who live across the country, said they would be supporting us.
I mean, it’s almost hard to believe. Thank you so much for the love you all have shown for us through this.
The fund raising stuff is really the next step for us and we’ll post more details later. I’m kind of excited for part of it, so we’ll try not to wait too long!
Thanks so much again everyone and keep us in your prayers!